What Do You Want?

When my family doesn’t have a lunch or dinner planned out, we find ourselves asking the dreaded question, “What do you want?” The question is dreaded because we approached this time of eating knowing full and well that we would have to make a decision, but no one stepped up and gave a preemptive answer to the question. However, the reasons for not giving a proper answer come from diverse reasons. The youngest child doesn’t answer because they have found their responses rejected every time and don’t want to be rejected again. Another child doesn’t answer because they don’t want to offend anyone with their selection. One parent doesn’t want to answer because they feel as if they must make all the decisions, and they have decision fatigue. There are myriad reasons why any of us refuse to answer that question. Still, no one answering the question often results in the family going to a place that is comfortable to everyone but not desirable to anyone.

Going to church on Easter Sunday is rarely a choice made by asking, “What do you want?” However, on most other Sundays of the year, we might question why we should go to church or why we should go to a specific church. The answers don’t come as easy for many, but if we dig into the rationale for attending a church or a service, we would also find many different responses. Some would say this is the closest church to them, while some say they love the worship band, others the traditions, and some say the pastor or even the programs at a particular church. Many of these are the things that brought us to the doors of a local church, but what we really want is Jesus.

Jesus brought the women to the tomb on the first Resurrection Sunday. It was customary to mourn at the tomb, and the Gospels tell us of the women who came to carry out the ritual and to help find closure on the death of their loved one. However, they got a surprise that forced them to reframe how they asked the question, “What do you want?”

Let us look at how the Gospel of John frames this encounter:

Now on the first day of the week Mary Magdalene came to the tomb early, while it was still dark, and saw that the stone had been taken away from the tomb. So she ran and went to Simon Peter and the other disciple, the one whom Jesus loved, and said to them, “They have taken the Lord out of the tomb, and we do not know where they have laid him.” So Peter went out with the other disciple, and they were going toward the tomb. Both of them were running together, but the other disciple outran Peter and reached the tomb first. And stooping to look in, he saw the linen cloths lying there, but he did not go in. Then Simon Peter came, following him, and went into the tomb. He saw the linen cloths lying there, and the face cloth, which had been on Jesus’ head, not lying with the linen cloths but folded up in a place by itself. Then the other disciple, who had reached the tomb first, also went in, and he saw and believed; for as yet they did not understand the Scripture, that he must rise from the dead. Then the disciples went back to their homes. But Mary stood weeping outside the tomb, and as she wept she stooped to look into the tomb. And she saw two angels in white, sitting where the body of Jesus had lain, one at the head and one at the feet. They said to her, “Woman, why are you weeping?” She said to them, “They have taken away my Lord, and I do not know where they have laid him.” Having said this, she turned around and saw Jesus standing, but she did not know that it was Jesus. Jesus said to her, “Woman, why are you weeping? Whom are you seeking?” Supposing him to be the gardener, she said to him, “Sir, if you have carried him away, tell me where you have laid him, and I will take him away.” Jesus said to her, “Mary.” She turned and said to him in Aramaic, “Rabboni!” (which means Teacher). Jesus said to her, “Do not cling to me, for I have not yet ascended to the Father; but go to my brothers and say to them, ‘I am ascending to my Father and your Father, to my God and your God.’ ” Mary Magdalene went and announced to the disciples, “I have seen the Lord”—and that he had said these things to her. 

The Holy Bible: English Standard Version (Wheaton, IL: Crossway Bibles, 2016), Jn 20:1–18.

The text above focuses on four individuals and how they would answer the question, “What do you want?” Mary Magdalene, John and Peter, and Jesus all instruct and guide us as we walk through our own queries. Whether we find ourselves identifying with Mary Magdalene or John and Peter, Jesus encounters us as we seek something in this world.

Mary Magdalene wanted answers. Outcast from much of society she found something in Jesus that gave her purpose and life. Jesus treated her with mercy, providing hope in the midst of the brokenness that showed her that she was not simply confined to the type of life that the world sought to entrap her, as she came from a certain place she would only be capable of a lower status in society. Some of us can certainly identify with Mary Magdalene, as we feel trapped by certain walls that have come up around us, and we do not feel as if we can break free from that confinement. We want free from the trappings of this world that have only brought us pain and frustration. We come to church looking for this freedom, just like Mary Magdalene.

Even when we find it, the world takes it away. Just as Jesus was crucified, it left the women, and particularly Mary Magdalene saddened and grieving. At the tomb, she sought to express grief, and find closure in hopes to find joy again. However, as she found the tomb empty, she initially felt robbed of the opportunity to grieve and sought the help of Peter and John to understand what was going on. We often want to understand what’s going on around us, and seek answers from others that we perceive to be more wise, or those that we think may have access to answers that elude us. However, oftentimes the answers that those around us provide only leave us with more questions, as Peter nor John gave Mary Magdalene any comfort.

Maybe we are Peter and John. Followers from the beginning, thinking we have it all figured out until the rug is pulled out from underneath us when our teacher, our hope, and our Lord left us on the cross. We thought Jesus was the answer, but what do we do now that Jesus is gone. Now we that the tomb is empty, and what are supposed to make of that? Peter ran all the way in, and John waited at the door, but neither got an answer. Many a Christian approaches striving for answers to questions, but when the answers aren’t readily available we go away to our comfort, but Jesus isn’t done with us.

Coming back to the tomb we find Mary Magdalene, staying there in her tears, where she encounters Jesus, and all she wants to do is cling to Him, because she does not want to let go. The last she saw Him he was lifeless, and now He is full of life. As she was not satisfied with the lack of answers, in her tears Jesus revealed Himself to her, and Jesus wants to reveal Himself to us here. What is troubling you? What do you want? Jesus reveals that there is peace for our sadness, and hope for our pain, which is precisely why He went to the cross. Jesus wants there to be peace in our world and hears the tears of those caught in the stress and disorder of our world. What does Jesus want? He wants us, in our brokenness, with our tears, and immersed in the ugliness of the world, Jesus wants us to come to the foot of the cross and be washed in His blood. He will turn our tears to joy, our pain into peace, and our hurts into hope. Through the love of the Almighty we are all welcome.

Now I ask you, “What do you want?” Right here, and right now, Jesus is present and asks us that question as we approach the places of death and darkness. On a Sunday nearly 2000 years ago Jesus transformed the symbols of death and destruction into beacons of hope for a world striving and seeking answers, freedom, and joy. In the light of Christ’s resurrection on the third day, no matter what we want, Jesus is the answer.

Published by JRMITCH85

I am often asked what describes you, which is a hard answer because sometimes I move in a thousand different directions. Some call me an engineer, others call me pastor, a few call me captain, some call me friend, others call me dad, and one calls me sweetheart. All of these things are descriptors and are accurate, but they don't fully capture me. My favorite place is in the mountains, enjoying the beauty of nature and God's creation, running and hiking around with my family and friends, and taking photos to cement the memories. However, the people that know me the best know that my favorite thing to do is come up with crazy adventures that push the limits of what our minds and bodies can do. My faith in God is important to me and drives me to look at creation the way I do. Because of my faith, I look at these adventures and running races from Half Marathons all the way to 50-mile races, as well as several Obstacle Course Races, as an opportunity to push the body God gave me as an act of worship. Hopefully, someday soon, I look toward running longer races and bigger adventures. My hope is that humanity can understand that the wild is a gift, and we need to care for it and quit destroying it by the way we live.

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